The background for the main page of Harmoni Kalifornia's new website, HarmoniKalifornia.XXX. What do you think? @girlwspadetatoo
A lot of married white women are enjoying the company of the more mature black male.
kingjamesnyc asked: I'm 26 in. NYC if I come out can we swing?
Generally speaking, we’re always open to making new friends in the swing lifestyle, but we can’t commit to swinging with you because we know almost nothing about you.
This is a common mistake that we see a lot of people — especially single men — make when it comes to trying to hook up with swingers over the internet. Sorry, but sending a message that says little more than, “Hi, wanna shag?” just isn’t going to cut it. Just as it is in the vanilla dating scene, you need to do some schmoozing when it comes to meeting with couples. You must put in some effort to demonstrate why you and the other couple would be a good match.
Also, if you happen to be traveling out of town for other business, meeting new people in that city can be a lot fun, but we’re not very big on the idea of traveling thousands of miles specifically to play with someone you’ve met only over the internet. If you can afford the time and money to make the trip, then that can be a nice adventure, but you need to understand that sexual chemistry over the internet does not always translate to face-to-face sexual chemistry. Any time you meet a potential playmate in person for the first time, there’s always a possibility that the meeting will be a bust.
We ask that you avoid making a trip just to see us, but if you happen to find yourself in Denver, you’re welcome to contact us. If we’re available, we’ll be happy to meet you for drinks, but we can’t guarantee anything beyond that.
KateandJessica: “Another shot Jessica took that we didn’t go with. I like the way my legs look but there just wasn’t a way to do this one where the Queen of Spades tattoo showed well. Also, my underwear on the floor was a nice touch I thought.”
chocolatevshay asked: Love your profile. I am a single, young black male who has been extremely interested in the lifestyle. I was wondering what are some of the important things that I should know when one is entering the lifestyle. I'm typically well-dressed, very friendly and respectful. Any advice and insight would be appreciated. Thanks.
We had a gentleman ask us a similar question a couple of years ago. You may find our answer here. We’d also like to recommend the following articles for detailed advice on how to become a successful single male swinger:
This sub completely trusts her dom.
Hubby appreciates his wife’s skill as a hostess. @MasterSHANGO
Are black guys better in bed? She probably thinks so!
thepenandpad asked: What about Nj or Ny? Have any good recommendations for finding QoS or swingeresque events?
Regretfully, we don’t know of any clubs in your area that are specific to the Queen of Spades lifestyle. Perhaps one of our followers can recommend one? But if you are in the NYC area, you have a huge selection of swing parties and swing clubs to choose from.
bbc1984 asked: You need to post some videos
We would love to, but Tumblr’s regulations discourage us from doing so. We used to upload videos on a regular basis until we discovered that Tumblr does not allow its users to upload sexually explicit videos to its servers.
It is permissible to embed sexually explicit videos into your Tumblr blog, but embedded videos from adult tube sites such as xHamster do not generate a thumbnail picture when they appear on a follower’s timeline (we suspect this is by Tumblr’s design). We tried embedding a number of videos from those sites, but because of the blank thumbnails, those videos received almost no reblogs — understandable, because we usually don’t click through when we see a blank video thumbnail on our timeline, either.
We have discovered that old uploaded videos can still be reblogged in perpetuity even after the original file has been deleted from Tumblr’s servers, so we will occasionally reblog a video that’s still in circulation this way. But most of those videos have already been reblogged thousands of times, and we’re reluctant to reblog something that we think most of our followers have already seen.
unequal069 asked: You guys still play with others?
Not as often as we’d like. We haven’t officially retired from playing with others, but it’s been a long time since we’ve done so. Anyone serious about joining us may contact us at Swing Lifestyle.
A shot Kate’s amazing daughter Jessica took for the cover of Kate’s new book, Kate In Spades. @KateandJessica