Hey guys. We are discussing the possibilities of getting into the swinging lifestyle. We live in the upper Midwest and don't really know how to meet others. We don't like the bar scene, and don't want to meet people there. Also, this would be more for her and not me. Any suggestions?
Honestly, based on what we read in your blog, it seems like you’re doing perfectly fine without our advice! Because you’re primarily looking for guys for the lady, it’s just as well that you don’t like the bar scene, which is pretty hit or miss when it comes to soliciting men for your woman.
Meeting men online is a better option. Although you need to wade through a lot of fakes when doing so, at least it gives you the opportunity to put potential suitors through an extensive screening process. It looks like you’ve had some luck on Craigslist, but we recommend trying a swingers site like Swing Lifestyle.
However, if there’s a swing club in your area that allows single men, you might consider attending. The men at these clubs are more likely to be experienced swingers, so you won’t need to waste a lot of energy teaching them the lifestyle’s basic rules of engagement. Furthermore, if you happen to meet other couples that also enjoy playing with single men, they may be able to give you some referrals. That’s probably the best way to meet safe, reliable playmates.
Generally speaking, we’re always open to making new friends in the swing lifestyle, but we can’t commit to swinging with you because we know almost nothing about you.
This is a common mistake that we see a lot of people — especially single men — make when it comes to trying to hook up with swingers over the internet. Sorry, but sending a message that says little more than, “Hi, wanna shag?” just isn’t going to cut it. Just as it is in the vanilla dating scene, you need to do some schmoozing when it comes to meeting with couples. You must put in some effort to demonstrate why you and the other couple would be a good match.
Also, if you happen to be traveling out of town for other business, meeting new people in that city can be a lot fun, but we’re not very big on the idea of traveling thousands of miles specifically to play with someone you’ve met only over the internet. If you can afford the time and money to make the trip, then that can be a nice adventure, but you need to understand that sexual chemistry over the internet does not always translate to face-to-face sexual chemistry. Any time you meet a potential playmate in person for the first time, there’s always a possibility that the meeting will be a bust.
We ask that you avoid making a trip just to see us, but if you happen to find yourself in Denver, you’re welcome to contact us. If we’re available, we’ll be happy to meet you for drinks, but we can’t guarantee anything beyond that.
Love your profile. I am a single, young black male who has been extremely interested in the lifestyle. I was wondering what are some of the important things that I should know when one is entering the lifestyle. I'm typically well-dressed, very friendly and respectful. Any advice and insight would be appreciated. Thanks.
We had a gentleman ask us a similar question a couple of years ago. You may find our answer here. We’d also like to recommend the following articles for detailed advice on how to become a successful single male swinger:
What about Nj or Ny? Have any good recommendations for finding QoS or swingeresque events?
Regretfully, we don’t know of any clubs in your area that are specific to the Queen of Spades lifestyle. Perhaps one of our followers can recommend one? But if you are in the NYC area, you have a huge selection of swing parties and swing clubs to choose from.
We would love to, but Tumblr’s regulations discourage us from doing so. We used to upload videos on a regular basis until we discovered that Tumblr does not allow its users to upload sexually explicit videos to its servers.
It is permissible to embed sexually explicit videos into your Tumblr blog, but embedded videos from adult tube sites such as xHamster do not generate a thumbnail picture when they appear on a follower’s timeline (we suspect this is by Tumblr’s design). We tried embedding a number of videos from those sites, but because of the blank thumbnails, those videos received almost no reblogs — understandable, because we usually don’t click through when we see a blank video thumbnail on our timeline, either.
We have discovered that old uploaded videos can still be reblogged in perpetuity even after the original file has been deleted from Tumblr’s servers, so we will occasionally reblog a video that’s still in circulation this way. But most of those videos have already been reblogged thousands of times, and we’re reluctant to reblog something that we think most of our followers have already seen.
Great blog!!! I'm a single guy, this is into swinging. Do you know of any swingers clubs in the Dallas area? One that is ok with single men. I understand that some clubs only allow couples. Just haven't found the right lady yet. I can travel. Thanks.
Here are some clubs in the Dallas/Fort Worth area that allow single men:
Which do you like more? Converting single white girls to BBC, converting wives to BBC lovers or meeting a new BBC lover for yourself?
We can’t say that we have a preference. It’s cool to meet any lady that’s into the interracial lifestyle, regardless of the circumstances. We’ve met quite a few on Tumblr, and it’s a shame that so few of them live in Colorado!